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Tossing Glitter… When It’s Authentic You Love Forever
Love. Fidelity. Commitment. People often ask what’s our secret. When I met Jeff I was just a few months shy of thirty. I felt old because I felt trapped. I felt trapped in my own head and in what I believed people expected of me. Their expectations of perfection and identity. I felt that life – real life, the life I wanted – was locked away somewhere that I couldn’t find.
Jeff told me he didn’t expect perfection- perfection was simply a myth. What he did expect was to share a happy life. Happiness. Jeff believed in happiness. And he believed that it was something we could find and have together.
Jeff allowed me to be myself. Being with Jeff and loved by him, gave my life meaning. I didn’t have to be someone else’s idea of Eddie, I could be my own. All Jeff wanted was for me to be myself, because that’s that man he loved. Me, Eddie. Insecurities, Indiana twang, and all.
Washington DC 1989
I can’t imagine a bigger feeling of accomplishment than knowing you’ve shared an authentic, happy life with the person you love. That your life together has an unbreakable bond. That you have been faithful to that love and rejoiced in it. Being happy doesn’t seem like much of an accomplishment if you compare it to landing on the moon, or discovering a cure for cancer. But in the everyday life that most of us have, there is no greater human accomplishment than simple happiness with the person you choose, who – by some crazy, beautiful chance – also chooses you.
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Beautiful story!! I Love reading your work!!
Kelly-
Thank you so much!!! Appreciate you reading Farm Stories!!!
Oh my….so beautiful and so true!!! For everyone!!
Carla-
There is so much comfort in growing older with the person you love! I know you share that with Greg!
Thank you for reading and supporting Farm Stories!!!
xoxo
Love it !! Thanks for your words.
Carl-
Thank you for your support, voice and kind heart!!!
Happiness can be a nearly impossible thing for many people to find. So glad you two found it and that you’re sharing it with us. Keep writing!
Kat-
Thank you so much for your continued support and voice for Farm Stories!!!
Love you!!!
You can’t imagine how happy I am that the cosmos came together and you and Jeff found each other. He saw in you what you only thought no one else could see. I believe happiness is more important than the moon landing. You and Jeff have found what so many of us never find. I wish you a very long life of only happiness, good health and prosperity in every way. Keep “Tossing Glitter” together thru eternity and lets get this book published!! CHEERS!!!! Love you always!! Beautifully written as always. XOXO 🙂
Kathy-
Thank you honey!!! Your love and support mean so much to me!!!
Tossing Glitter with you- then, now and always!!!
xoxo
Wonderful. So glad you found each other! <3
Julie-
Thank you so much!!! I appreciate you and your beautiful spirit so much!!!
xoxo
I never tire of your love story!
Rhonda-
Thank you honey!!! Have known you a long time!!! Your support means so much to me!!!
xoxox
Beautiful. So happy you and Jeff found each other. Love your stories! xoxo
Kim-
Your reading, support and voice truly mean so much to me.
Much love to you!!!
xo
Just beautiful. I have this kind of love and acceptance from my husband too and it is the best…
Debbie-
I’m so happy for you!!! Nothing better than being loved and sharing life with someone who celebrates us for who we are!
Thank you for reading, supporting and sharing your voice with Farm Stories!!!
xo
Happiness is certainly what it’s all about. I’m so glad you two have it!
Sending love from the south!!
Jill-
Thank you so much!!! Your reading and supporting for Farm Storie means so much!!!
xoxoxo
Eddie, I probably comment way too much on here, but sometimes I just can’t seem to help myself. You know how I love to talk, and this is as close as I can get to talking to you. I love the things youare writing. This one has such a wonderful message – everyone deserves happiness. Too many people think they can’t be happy until they have something that they don’t have yet – money, fame, the right job, etc. And they chase after that thing they think will make them happy. You and Jeff know the real truth – that things don’t and can’t make anyone happy. The people in our lives that we love and who love us back make us happy. We have to be happy with ourselves before we can be happy with another person, and once you find that “right” person, it seems like nothing can make you really unhappy. I’m so glad that you & Jeff found each other. Much love from me to you both!
CindyKay
CindyKay-
I’m so thrilled and appreciate your support, voice and open loving heart so much!!! You’ve been that way since you were a little girl!!!
Such truth in if we can’t self-love it’s nearly impossible to love those around us. I certainly discovered that the hard way. But I finally did!
Thank you for reading my Farm Stories!!!
Love you then, now and always….
xoxoxo
I’m so happy that you are so happy
Cindy-
Thank you so much!!!
Appreciate you reading my Farm Stories!!!
xoxo
This brings to mind the love verse from. 1Corinthians. And now these three remain: faith ,hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.xoxo
Kathy-
Beautiful!!!
Thankful for love….
xoxoxo
This is weird because I can’t remember any of your boyfriends, all I knew was us. At that time the only thing I remember was you wanting to be in a relationship with someone who l oved you and took care of you and keep you as their plaything to show around, we were kids we didn’t understand how life was. When we were by ourselves we talked about what we really wanted and you weren’t getting even a tenth of what you deserved, you felt like you were undeserving and I never understood that until later on when I realized about your father and the tough row you had to hoe. Then I knew you better. I truly never met any of your other boyfriends after you left me and went to Florida and then I think to Washington. Washington is where I think that there you found yourself and the love of your life. I’m not sure I have met anyone like you and I don’t think I ever will again we were thrown together from some reason and I like to think that it’s because we needed a good slap in the face from each other so we knew what our true value was. And I think it worked. We both have been happy with both of our true loves who know that if you weren’t gay and I was single we would probably marry but they knew what our relationship was about and built upon. It’s so solid it will never fall and we will always be there for each other when the time comes and it will eventually but we 2 bad bitches we be ready!! In the mean time you and Jeff give some big smooches from me to you both! Xoxoxo
MonaBaby-
We were such kids when we met. Trying to figure out who we were. I had so much shame. But we always laughed and had fun. Having a sense of humor is good medicine. I am grateful you were there and we shared that time together. Thank you for reading and supporting Farm Stories.
Love you
xoxo
Eddie,
This is one of the most beautifully written pieces I’ve ever read! And I read A LOT! This piece is fitting for anyone who ever felt different or unlovable for whatever reason! This should be a must read for every kid starting at about 6th grade & continuing on into adulthood or until they’ve found self-love! We have never met but I sure feel like we have! So glad I found you through a friend! Keep writing! You are an inspiration! So glad you are loved & found Jeff & he found you! Big hugs!!!
Teresa-
What a beautiful note! Thank you so much!
Self-love and forgiving oneself is essential for a successful full life. Took a long time for me to understand that.
I appreciate your reading Farm Stories and adding your voice!!! It truly means so much!!!
Thank you!!
xo