Tossing Glitter… Girl Happy

Back in the early 1980s, back in the Midwest, saying the words “I’m gay” was both terrifying and exhilarating. The phrase that people liked to use for male jocks and good-time hell-raisers — ‘He’s all boy’ – was never me. But I always tried to be a good boy. To be a pleaser. It wasn’t always easy.

I could see myself somehow disappointing those I admired, and deeply hurting those I loved. There were times it all seemed hopeless. But each time I said those words “I’m gay”, those feelings were replaced with hope, strength, inner peace, and finally pride. I’m gay. Words now that proclaim out loud who I am to the world.

To the kids today who struggle: Give people time. Try to use your fear and your anger in a way that is productive and not hurtful to you or others. And remember for every person who can’t accept you there are dozens right behind them ready to celebrate you.

When it’s authentic you love them forever…

And for all the special girls in my life – the girls whose love and friendship helped me through, back in the day and now: THANK YOU. I wouldn’t have made it without your acceptance, forgiveness and love. And as they would say in the Midwest, all of you are all girl. I love you.